6 top tips for a successful parent’s evening

Whether the idea of parents’ evening fills you with dread, or doesn’t faze you at all, some degree of preparation can be beneficial to make the most of this opportunity. Here at TutorsPlus, our Client Manager and mum of 3, Olivia, knows a thing or 2 about these events. In this article, she offers her top tips on how to make your next parent / teacher meeting a success!

Olivia points out that “Children can be uncommunicative about their life at the best of times and few jump at the chance to talk about school with their parents.  This can be frustrating, so parents evenings can be a crucial moment to get a clear view of their academic performance.”

“Time is short and so a little bit of preparation will go a long way towards making sure you get the most out of it for your child.”

  1. Be prepared

Ahead of time, try to take a moment to think about how school is going for your child. Ask them how they feel and what they would like you to ask. Ideally, go through exercise books and look at teachers comments to get a sense of any changes in your child’s progress. Don’t be afraid to jot down questions and take them along with you.

If you have notes from the last parents’ meeting or the last set of school reports to hand, this will help you ask targeted questions about your child’s learning and monitor developments since the last time you talked with the teachers.

  1. Let the teacher lead

With your detailed preparation done, don’t be tempted to set the agenda. You are there to hear how your child is doing, and the best way to do this is by listening.  If your enthusiasm gets the better of you, there is a risk that you will go off-track and miss vital information the teacher wants to share.  Listening first also sends the signal that you trust the teacher to do their job and have respect for their professional abilities.  This will get your relationship off on the right footing and it is likely they will answer many of the questions you have in mind.

  1. Keep up a united front

If you feel that you don’t quite connect with your child’s teacher, or even disagree completely with some of their points, keep in mind that teachers have good intentions at heart. The chances are they are trying their best to help your child even when you disagree with their approach. It can really help to avoid conflict if everyone keeps in mind that parents and teachers are on the same side.  It will also help you both move towards a common goal together, even if you find you have different ideas about how to get there. Evidence shows that the is a link between strong parent/teacher relationships and positive educational outcomes for children.

It can also help to talk to your partner before the evening so you are both on the same page – this will  also save valuable time on the evening.  We know that with work, travel and other commitments it may hard for you both to attend. If this is the case then perhaps technology can give you a helping hand?  You can ask to record the meeting on your phone and take pictures of your child’s work.  You can also try calling in your partner to the meeting, so they don’t miss out.

  1. Stay professional and polite even if the red mist descends

Even if the meeting runs smoothly, there will possibly be moments when you feel the teacher is not on your side. This is natural: we are parents and it is our job to protect our children and to stick up for them.  However, we also want to find out how our children can get more out of their education and this will mean the ability to remain calm when our children are being criticised, even when that criticism is constructive (as it always should be). Let’s face it, few teachers are given training on how to give feedback to parents and may not deliver it in the most palatable way.

A few tactical deep breaths are better than letting emotions fly. Sandra Steiger, Academic Support Manager at TutorsPlus and veteran international school teacher advises

 “our children are likely to be at the school for many years, perhaps even a decade, so try to be aware that letting emotions take control could make life difficult for you and your children for a long time.”

If you sense that your questions are not being answered clearly, our tip is to be “politely persistent,” remaining positive but firm.

  1. Use parents’ evening as the start of a conversation with your child’s teachers

Most of us feel harried and stressed 5 minutes into parents’ evening (and some meetings only last a few minutes).  It is often a rush to get there on time and the length of appointments can seem impossibly short.  As your blood pressure rises you try to see everyone you are meant to meet, keeping up a friendly and informed demeanour. It can be overwhelming!  Our advice is, be friendly but keep small talk to a minimum so you can get straight to the important topics.  Don’t be afraid to ask for clarification if there is anything you don’t understand: there is a lot of jargon in educational speak, and there may be acronyms you don’t recognise, especially if you didn’t grow up in the same education system.

One of our most helpful tips is to think in advance about those teachers with whom you actually want to start a dialogue with, and those who you simply want to listen to. Then you can use the little time you have to start a discussion and identify with the teacher how you will continue your communication e.g. via email, a follow-up meeting or a scheduled phone call.

Olivia advises that “parents’ evening is not the best moment to bring a big issue to the table that will require time to work through”.  With that said, giving teachers some background into your family life can be very helpful, as it will help teachers get a more rounded picture of your child.  Illness, mental health challenges and other difficulties will affect their learning and behaviour, and by sharing this, teachers can provide the support your child needs.

  1. Don’t forget the follow-up

If your child hasn’t attended the meeting with you, it is always a good idea to discuss what the main themes of discussion were as well as any goals you set with the teachers. This way,  your child knows what is expected in the weeks and months that follow.

If you forget something or think of an essential question as you are leaving, feel free to follow up with the teacher.  They will see this as a sign that you are highly engaged and they will be only too pleased to respond.

If you feel you could benefit from some support with your child’s education, please do get in touch with us at TutorsPlus. We can recommend one of our highly experienced teachers to tutor your child, or you can chat to one of our education experts (who are all parents too!).  Our team all have experience of the international school programmes, whether it be IGCSE, IB, A Levels, French Bac or Swiss Matu, and they will be able to see where your child needs help and have all the curriculum details and past papers to support them.


By Olivia Coghlan

Olivia has been a client manager for TutorsPlus for over 6 years and is an expert on international education in Switzerland.


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